SEX . . . As you all know, as age attains, soon will be marriage. Marriage is a physical component to a relationship. No one can’t change that, and no one can’t sacrifice it any longer. It has helped many people validating their feelings by saying that sex/physical connection is a basic human need and we are all entitled to it.
- But is it really a “basic human need”?
- If it is, how do you explain?
- Who just don’t have the desire for sex to feel love, give love, and have a successful relationship with their partners?
- How can sex be a “basic human need” if clearly, some people DON’T need it?
- I think we may be wrong…maybe it isn’t a basic need.
- And if it isn’t, how would you justify leaving a relationship over this issue?
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10 Situations That Make Women Want Sex [more reading]
- After an argument -The concept of “make-up sex” is not a myth. A heated argument with your woman tends to get your blood boiling, and your heart pumping. And once you’ve both gotten whatever’s been bothering you off your chests and told each other exactly how you feel, there’s nothing quite like turning the tables by taking her in your arms, kissing her passionately and letting your heightened emotions take over. Even if you’ve upset her and she’s crying, that’s okay. Let her calm down, wipe her tears away and make love to her.
- Happy occasion: Just like anger and sadness, extreme happiness can also get a woman in the mood. So, if she just got her degree, got a great new job, just found out she’s pregnant, or another similarly joyous event has just taken place, it’s time to channel all of that positive energy into some great sex.
- Amid stress: Although I wouldn’t consider stress an extreme emotion, it can raise a woman’s libido. If your woman’s been likened to a chicken without a head lately, chances are that she’d be quite appreciative if you offered her a release for her tension. That goes for stress-induced headaches too, by the way. That’s right; a roll in the hay often gets rid of her headaches altogether. Be sure to tell her that the next time she gives you that tired line.
- Jealousy: I’m not talking jealousy of the psychotic kind here; I’m referring to that little twinge of insecurity that comes over her when another woman is doing her competitive bitch thing and putting the moves on you, so to speak. After an evening of watching her man be hit on by other women, she may just want to remind you about one of the important reasons you’re with her and not them. But don’t go out of your way to make her jealous, that will just hurt and confuse her in the long run, diminishing the likelihood of your getting laid even further.
- Day 14… or so: Wow, this is a shocker: A woman gets horny when she’s ovulating. So, if it’s been about two weeks since her last period, now is probably a good time to initiate some action, if she hasn’t beaten you to it already.
- Party on: I’m not advocating getting her drunk and taking advantage of her here. But, there’s nothing like a little dancing and drinking to get a woman in the mood. So, pour her her favorite kind of liquid courage, lead her in a slow dance on your living room floor, and watch as her inhibitions slowly melt away, allowing you to proceed with the matter at hand. Cheers!
- Sexy movie: Most women aren’t that into porn, especially not the raunchy, hard-core stuff. But a steamy sex scene starring Brad Pitt or Antonio Banderas may just be enough to get her revved up and ready for you. So, turn your next humdrum night in watching movies, into a night you won’t soon forget.
- Long-distance love: Long-distance relationships have the potential to be great for your sex life, as you will typically spend several days or weeks apart, pining for one another, with maybe just a couple of phone calls to keep you going, so that by the time you are reunited, all you want to do is devour each other.
- Abstinence: The longer a woman goes without having sex, the hornier she’ll be. So, if the woman you’re after has been single for a while, and isn’t the one-night stand type, chances are that she’s looking for the right guy to break her dry spell. It just may be you.
- Creative pitch: If your woman enjoys using her creativity, whether it be in the kitchen, with a paintbrush or musically, these occasions may be conducive to great sex. So, the next time she’s making you a gourmet meal, you may just want to slip into the kitchen for some pre-dinner sex.
When Women Use Sex [more reading]
1. Marriage for Money: There was a time when women had to marry outside the confines of love. A time when their fathers and grandfathers chose husbands for them. A time in which marriage was a contractual agreement in which the men involved gained profit or status. This was a time long ago, when women could not vote, took their husbands’ name because they were possessions, objects without voice or volition. A time when the laws of God and country did not consider them human — women were the ends to a means, and the only things they contributed to their marriage included children and compliance. This time no longer exists save for some small countries outside the United States in which women are still considered voiceless second-class citizens. Women no longer need to marry for money, and yet they continue to troll the walks of life in search for a man with deep pockets. I feel sorry for the man who settles for such a woman, and I openly scorn the woman who thinks it’s OK not to work, not to be self-reliant, and is content to leech off the ambitions of men — I’m not talking about stay-at-home-moms. They work 24/7. I’m talking about the women who won’t date men who make less than a certain amount of money a year; women who cheat with rich and married bosses in hopes that these men leave their wives and 2.5 kids for them. Why not be more like men — ambitious, self-reliant, and independent? There is more pride in that. There is more respect. And this is why men continue to rule the world. They achieve while we rely on their achievements to provide us with security and an endless array of Gucci shoes — unapologetically.
2. Sex and Glory: Women who use their sex/sexuality to get ahead sicken me. Women who use their sex/sexuality for attention and self-pride annoy me to no end. Women are endowed with the same kind of natural potential as men, and yet it is their sex that they use to gain recognition, equality, and respect. And it may seem as if the men that undress them, leave their wives for them, and give them raises or promotions recognize and value them, but they don’t. They only want to covet that which the women so freely sell. There is no respect, no valuable gain in profiting from the sale of female flesh and orifices. No matter the title that garnishes women’s names, no matter the suits they wear, no matter the amount of money they deposit in their checking accounts, underneath all of that these kind of women are nothing more than corporate whores, prostitutes, hookers, nameless sexual objects with price tags. They are no better than the go-go dancers that wind their curves around a metal pole at a strip club for a buck in their panties. They’re no better than trash cans, obscure and interchangeable holes in which men deposit their excrements. Why not be more like men who use their brains, their intellect, their education to get ahead?
3. Tits and Assets: Men compete in suits, in the kind of cars they drive, in the golf and country clubs they join. Their ambition earns them their job; their job earns them money; their money earns them a lifestyle full of toys and possessions that highlight their success as men, as entrepreneurs, as driven and infallible Gods. Women, on the other hand, compete with their sexuality — more specifically, with their breasts. Whereas the size of a man’s wallet determines his appeal, the size of a woman’s breasts accentuates her appeal — and still it is her sexuality that she uses to empower herself — God forbid she earns a degree or two with which to highlight her intellectual prowess. Yet again, women get implants or wear padded bras and low cut shirts so that the curve of their tits show the world and masculine eyes that women have power — but they doesn’t. Sure, they have the power to draw the lustful glances of their sexual counterparts — but for what means? How does a man’s recognition and appreciation of a woman’s breasts make her feel superior, powerful, sure-footed in life? Why does she need to feel sexy in order to feel powerful — dominant? All he wants is sex. He wants nothing more because he sees nothing more.
Cover yourself and show him your real power — show him your potential, your intellect, your unnerving, un-cowering and unparalleled supremacy as it lies beneath your sexuality, beyond the size of your breasts or the curves of your femininity, struggling with the want of male-centered recognition. Show him you are better than tits and ass, better than sex, better than an object of his desire.
4. Vain and Petty Appetites: Women are vain and petty; men are vain and petty, too, but because they work and are possessors of volition and drive, they don’t seem as superficial as women. Women are silly, child-like, supercilious, and vapid embodiments of the female. They have always been like this. Read any book written circa 1600, 1700, 1800 — women have always been social creatures who delved too much in the romances, competing over gossip and men. A lover of the classics, I have always been engrossed by the portraits painted of women from the past, and wonder how nothing has really changed. Women are allowed to vote, have careers, possess many more opportunities and choices than in the past, but they are still petty. Men interact with one another on a superficial level, talking about work, kids, wives, sports, the market; they never reveal too much to one another, a wall of fortified concrete concealing their inner-most secrets, fears, and insecurities. But women bare all, taking into confidence “friends” they have made and entrust all their secrets to. But as soon as we know these secrets, we feel superior; we condescend, patronize, and shame the other for her insecurities, her follies and mistakes. In this way, men are smarter. They outline their relationships with other men with distance. And because of this, gossip and pettiness does not marginalize their sex as it does for women. Women are cliquish, acting out their middle and high school interactions in the adult world with adult women. If you don’t drive the right car, take your kids to the right school, dress the right way, or say the right things, chances are you will not be allowed exclusive membership to their exclusive club. Men aren’t so vapid, and it makes me wonder if it is because they work; there is meaning in their lives and they have better things to do with their time because they work. They are defined by the success they have built for themselves.
Who Wants Sex More, Men or Women? [more reading] Dr. Trina’s Point: Give it up guys…sex isn’t all about you.
Brian, do you remember the Woody Allen movie where on a split screen, Mia Farrow says to her psychiatrist, “He constantly wants sex—three times a week.” On the adjacent screen Woody Allen says, “We hardly ever have sex—three times a week?”
I believe women do want sex as much as men. The challenge, though, is that it has to be memorable sex.
If any of you men are wondering why your gal isn’t as enthused about sex as you it’s probably because…are you ready? The sex is all about you, not her. Women would like sex to have a beginning, middle and end.
Instead, she gets the all-about-the-man sex—you clutch and grab her three hot spots, she hopefully has an orgasm and if not, oh well, there’s always next time, and then it’s on to you (finally!!!). After a few months of that old and tired routine other things bring more stimulation, like reading a romance novel.
It’s not rocket science Brian. Estrogen is far more powerful on female sexual desire than testosterone could ever hope to be. Think of when a woman is having her horny day. Heaven help the husband if he doesn’t pull through on a booty-call.
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